Eventually it starts to feel like all of the ease and joy has been sucked out of life.
#1 Ease up on the mental gymnastics.
To begin revising this inner dialogue to one that is more supportive, consider this quote from Byron Katie:
“A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.”
Not believing our thoughts is definitely the simplest path to peace, however, it takes lots of practice and that’s where it’s essential to be patient and persistent.
#2 There is a solution
#3 Do one small thing
Here’s what to do!
Find one small thing you can commit to everyday such as...
- Drinking more water
- Sitting in stillness for 5 minutes
- Prioritize sleep (even going to bed 20 minutes earlier can make a difference)
- Add in more veggies
- Take 3 deep breaths 5 times a day
- Walk for 15 minutes (then gradually work up to 30)
Even if you eventually add in more of these habits, start with one that feels easiest and most fun to you. By doing that you set yourself up for success because you are much more likely to stick with it.
#4 Be kinder to yourself
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.