At times my life felt like a house of cards, one small gust of wind could knock everything down… this was exhausting, unsustainable and clearly bad for my health. As a result, I was experiencing chronic insomnia and severe headaches every day! In this state of hyper stress, I was definitely not the mom, friend, sister, or spouse that I wanted to be. There is no doubt that if I had stayed on that path I would have become increasingly more unhealthy and miserable.
I knew things needed to change but I didn’t know where to start. By trial and error, and a good deal of luck I gradually found the tools that have helped me to become more adaptable to change...ahhhh. I am now able to have peace and ease, even in life’s more chaotic moments. I can't express enough how everything shifted for me and brought with it a freedom I had never known. If you are craving this same peace of mind here are a few of my go-to strategies to start with.
The minute we cling to the idea that our happiness is based on a particular outcome we've handed over our experience of life to forces outside of our control. The more flexible you are (in thought and actions) the more you are able to create the experience you want in any moment.
If we stay in the same old patterns we are not giving ourselves the chance to see what is possible. Here are just a few ideas to get you started:
- Yoga (This practice has been life changing for me)
- Take a writing or journaling class
- Organize a book group
- Have coffee with a new acquaintance
What you eat affects EVERYTHING! Not just your outward appearance but your mental and emotional health as well. Reducing refined sugars and processed foods and adding in whole foods will help improve your resistance to stress and increase your mental clarity.
It’s easy to get stuck on the problem. If you notice your mind spinning on what’s going wrong, break that cycle by asking a question that shifts your focus to a solution. For instance: You’re stuck in traffic and late for work, you can’t make the traffic go any faster so ask “What can I do?” The answer may be to call work and let them know you’ll be late. You may also realize that arriving to work feeling rushed will make your whole day feel stressed. As a solution, you might turn off the news and turn on music you enjoy so you feel more relaxed and ready to face the demands of the day.