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When life gets complicated...                                        Go back to the basics!

2/26/2020

 
​Between responsibilities, work demands, relationships, and emotional ups and downs, it’s not surprising that we face moments of chaos and uncertainty. When that state of chaos becomes the norm, things get dicey and we can become run down and stuck in overwhelm.
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​Eventually it starts to feel like all of the ease and joy has been sucked out of life.
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So, what is an exhausted, overwhelmed person to do?

#1 Ease up on the mental gymnastics.

One of the first responses our mind has to stressful situations is to tell stories about why we deserve it, that we’re justified in feeling the way we do, and then it seals the deal by showing how unlikely it is that we’ll be able to turn things around. And we believe every negative word we tell ourselves!

To begin revising this inner dialogue to one that is more supportive, consider this quote from Byron Katie:

“A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.”
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Not believing our thoughts is definitely the simplest path to peace, however, it takes lots of practice and that’s where it’s essential to be patient and persistent.

#2 There is a solution

I find it’s very helpful to remind myself of this, even if I have no idea what the answer is at the moment. Keeping your mind focused on the solution helps to calm down the fight or flight response and will get you unstuck because your mind is taking empowered action rather than fixating on the problem. 

#3 Do one small thing 

When we’re looking for ways out of a bad cycle it can often feel like we have to do something major like change jobs, find new friends, move to a different city, end a relationship, stop eating foods we enjoy… And generally, that just adds to the pressure and keeps us from taking any action at all.
Here’s what to do!
Find one small thing you can commit to everyday such as...
  • Drinking more water
  • Sitting in stillness for 5 minutes
  • Prioritize sleep (even going to bed 20 minutes earlier can make a difference)
  • Add in more veggies
  • Take 3 deep breaths 5 times a day
  • Walk for 15 minutes (then gradually work up to 30)
 
Even if you eventually add in more of these habits, start with one that feels easiest and most fun to you. By doing that you set yourself up for success because you are much more likely to stick with it.

#4  Be kinder to yourself

​Self-kindness--the most important one of all! There are few things more demotivating than criticism, and that includes our own inner critics who tend to be the harshest. The words we use are shaped by the beliefs we hold and together they create our experience. Or as Mahatma Gandhi said:
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny. 

If you're done feeling stuck and are ready to create your destiny, the easy next step is to schedule your free consultation with me. In our call you will learn more about what is stopping you from reaching your most important goals and how you can take action to move forward right away.

Is Your New Year’s Resolution Doomed?

12/30/2015

 
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Millions of us start out the new year with the best intentions, ready to do differently and better than ever.  We set goals around everything from eating healthier, exercising more, increasing productivity, to connecting more deeply with the ones we love…. and almost every one of us fails to reach our goal.  Why?  Because if our goals are based on externally driven motives that have a distant end zone, they are doomed from the start.

Externally driven motives looks something like this:  
“I want to lose weight because I look like a fat slob."
“When I attract a partner who loves me then I can be happy.”
“Once I finish all of the projects at work, then I can relax.”

But take heart: here’s how to set yourself up for success!  Learn to recognize when your goals are connected to external motivators and then reframe them to have a more internal, sensory based meaning.  

Internal motives look like this:
“I am going to nourish my body with excellent food and move in a way that feels good every day so that I can feel as vibrant and alive as possible.”
“I am going to start a project of finding ways to be happy every day so that I can attract someone who is as happy and whole as I am.”
“I am going to commit to relaxing at some point every day so that I have the clarity and energy I need to do everything I want to do.”

Internally driven motives do a couple of things for you.  First, they give you a much more loving and compassionate foundation to base your choices on which makes it easier to get back on track when you start to veer from your goals.  And second, you are not waiting for a future event (that too-distant end zone) to take place in order to experience the pleasure, fulfillment, and happiness you crave right now.

So where do you start?
For some lucky people, you may already have a very clear idea of what you want and how it will make you feel to have it.  More commonly we only have a sense of wanting things to be different but not sure where to start or how to make it happen.  Here are two suggestions which you can tie into your New Year’s intentions or use anytime you want more clarity and forward movement:

Perform a clearing ritual
Here’s a simple one.  Take 2 pieces of paper; on one write down everything you want to let go of, on the other write down what you want you want to invite more of into your life.  Take the paper with everything to be released and burn it (safely) or you can tear it up and throw it into a running stream.  The other page gets pinned up somewhere where you can see it regularly (or if it works better for you, put it on your phone or computer as the screen saver).

Shake up your routine
This can be as simple as driving a different way to work, switching up the type of exercise you usually do, or adding in 5 minutes of stillness everyday when you are used to a go, go, go lifestyle…  OR It can be as challenging as taking on a detox that has you diving into self-care in a whole new way.

I like both of these approaches to shaking up routines, although, I have to admit that when I want to really reset and re-energize I need a big step back from my normal, daily patterns and there's nothing that accomplishes that better than a full-on detox.  If you want to experience what it's like to dive deep into self-care I'd love for you to join me this January for my Mind Body Spirit detox that is going to support all of the essential elements for vibrant health, mental clarity, and inner peace.
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Click here to register and see complete details:  

             Mind - Body - Spirit Detox

Wishing you a joyous, healthy, amazing New Year!
Janna

Expectations are a KILLJOY!

12/9/2015

 
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Expectation, and it’s close cousin perfectionism, can suck the life out of any party.  Take the holidays for instance, which really have a lot going for them: twinkling lights, festive decorations, special foods, a chance to step out of the normal routine, and opportunities to honor your friends, family, and religion or belief systems.  Yet somehow we lose sight of what’s important and get swept up in things like:
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  • Spending days and days looking for the perfect gift for everyone
  • Redoing the decorations 10 times to get them right
  • Feeling like everyone should be happy and getting along, and then being disappointed when they aren’t
  • Driving 2 hours to pick up the ‘best’ prosciutto for your party
  • Stressing over how to get your cookies to look like Martha Stewart’s

​Not too many Christmases ago I was one of the leading members of the “lets make the holidays as crazy as possible club” and one thing I learned first hand is that expectations can be easily derailed by any number of outside forces.  The best laid plans don’t stand a chance against:
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Time (sometimes there just simply isn’t enough to get everything done in a healthy, relatively calm way)

Other People (when their expectations clash with ours all hell can break loose)  

Money (our vision of how we want to spend on presents, celebrations, and travel quite often exceeds what’s in the bank)

There is nothing wrong with getting swept up in holiday preparations and celebrations!  However, you want to watch out for warning signs that your preparations are leaving you depleted rather than exhilarated.  If you notice you are more focused on things like accumulating presents for the ones you love than being present for the ones you love, here are some ways to release expectations during the holiday time:

Pay Attention to what matters.  Yes presents are fun (I love them!), however the truth is if you disappeared before presents were exchanged no one is going to mourn not receiving the latest electronic, game, sweater, tie, chocolates, etc…  They are going to mourn the absence of you.  The greatest gift you can give is to show up fully for the people who matter to you.
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Pause and notice the things you appreciate most about this time.  Do you love the lights, music, time with friends or family?  What you focus on will grow and expand, so the more you are connecting to the positive the more positive you will feel.  (Yes it is that simple!)
Breathe.  Three deep breaths will allow your body to reconnect with what if feels like to let stress go--even if it’s just for a moment
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Say No… simplify your schedule by not saying yes to every event and invitation.  
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Trade In how you think it "should" be for appreciation for what you have.  So often we’re in a race to make things happen a certain way and we miss the amazing moments in front of us.
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Say adios to perfection.  Good enough is way more relaxing than setting unrealistic, crazy-making standards that have you running in 1000 different directions to achieve them.
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Hang Out with your pet, or borrow a friend's!  Animals couldn't care less about the holidays, their joy comes from a much simpler source of love and connection.  Giving them love and watching their joy expand can be very soothing to jangled nerves.

By taking care of yourself first you get to give the best gift of all: being fully connected to yourself and therefore able to fully connect with others.

​And on that note... Happy Holidays!!

Is Comparison Robbing Your Confidence?

10/29/2015

 
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“Comparison is the thief of joy.”  -Teddy Roosevelt
It can be so subtle that we don’t even realize it at first.  It starts with a stroll through Facebook, a magazine, a work event, an offhand comment, a family gathering, or any other type of social interaction and suddenly we are sucked into the blackhole of comparison. 

In a split second we can go from being happy, relaxed and confident in our efforts, to feeling like a total failure and believing that nothing we do is ever going to be as good as what other people are accomplishing.

There is nothing constructive or empowering about measuring our self-worth against others.  Not only does it feel awful to be in the throes of compare-and-despair, but this phenomenon has far reaching negative consequences as well.  

Here are just a few:
Reinforces the feeling of not being or doing enough
Kills creativity and cheats the world of your unique gifts
Shatters inner trust
Holds us back from taking empowered action
Intensifies feelings of isolation and self-doubt
Fortunately there is a way out!
Try these actions when you find yourself pulled into the comparison trap:​

| Let go of perfectionism.  There is no such thing as perfect (seriously, do you know anyone who does everything right, all the time?).

| Take action.  Even one small step toward your goal or one positive thought toward yourself can stop comparison in its tracks.

| Focus on your strengths.  Comparing our weakest skills to others’ strengths is an instant downer.

| Actively practice gratitude.  When you turn your attention to what is going well you will open yourself up to seeing more possibilities.

The first step to empowered living is being able to clearly see what’s stopping you from empowered actions.  What we can see we can change.

It can be challenging to see these blocks for ourselves!  If you are ready to create more confidence and ease in your life, sign up for a free consultation with me.  This empowering conversation is for people who are ready to make themselves a priority, and is a great opportunity for anyone who wants more clarity for their desires and their challenges!  Simply click here to grab your time. 

I’d love to hear from you!  Let me know which of the action steps you found most effective in the comments below.
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    Welcome!  I help people who are ready to live FULL-OUT.  People who are no longer willing to compromise their happiness and are motivated to do what it takes to live a life they love.  Small changes have a huge impact and this blog is about taking one step at a time to create your most amazing life! I look forward to connecting with you soon.
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