“Comparison is the thief of joy.” -Teddy Roosevelt
It can be so subtle that we don’t even realize it at first. It starts with a stroll through Facebook, a magazine, a work event, an offhand comment, a family gathering, or any other type of social interaction and suddenly we are sucked into the blackhole of comparison.
In a split second we can go from being happy, relaxed and confident in our efforts, to feeling like a total failure and believing that nothing we do is ever going to be as good as what other people are accomplishing.
There is nothing constructive or empowering about measuring our self-worth against others. Not only does it feel awful to be in the throes of compare-and-despair, but this phenomenon has far reaching negative consequences as well.
Here are just a few:
Reinforces the feeling of not being or doing enough
Kills creativity and cheats the world of your unique gifts
Shatters inner trust
Holds us back from taking empowered action
Intensifies feelings of isolation and self-doubt
In a split second we can go from being happy, relaxed and confident in our efforts, to feeling like a total failure and believing that nothing we do is ever going to be as good as what other people are accomplishing.
There is nothing constructive or empowering about measuring our self-worth against others. Not only does it feel awful to be in the throes of compare-and-despair, but this phenomenon has far reaching negative consequences as well.
Here are just a few:
Reinforces the feeling of not being or doing enough
Kills creativity and cheats the world of your unique gifts
Shatters inner trust
Holds us back from taking empowered action
Intensifies feelings of isolation and self-doubt
Fortunately there is a way out!
Try these actions when you find yourself pulled into the comparison trap:
| Let go of perfectionism. There is no such thing as perfect (seriously, do you know anyone who does everything right, all the time?).
| Take action. Even one small step toward your goal or one positive thought toward yourself can stop comparison in its tracks.
| Focus on your strengths. Comparing our weakest skills to others’ strengths is an instant downer.
| Actively practice gratitude. When you turn your attention to what is going well you will open yourself up to seeing more possibilities.
The first step to empowered living is being able to clearly see what’s stopping you from empowered actions. What we can see we can change.
It can be challenging to see these blocks for ourselves! If you are ready to create more confidence and ease in your life, sign up for a free consultation with me. This empowering conversation is for people who are ready to make themselves a priority, and is a great opportunity for anyone who wants more clarity for their desires and their challenges! Simply click here to grab your time.
I’d love to hear from you! Let me know which of the action steps you found most effective in the comments below.
| Let go of perfectionism. There is no such thing as perfect (seriously, do you know anyone who does everything right, all the time?).
| Take action. Even one small step toward your goal or one positive thought toward yourself can stop comparison in its tracks.
| Focus on your strengths. Comparing our weakest skills to others’ strengths is an instant downer.
| Actively practice gratitude. When you turn your attention to what is going well you will open yourself up to seeing more possibilities.
The first step to empowered living is being able to clearly see what’s stopping you from empowered actions. What we can see we can change.
It can be challenging to see these blocks for ourselves! If you are ready to create more confidence and ease in your life, sign up for a free consultation with me. This empowering conversation is for people who are ready to make themselves a priority, and is a great opportunity for anyone who wants more clarity for their desires and their challenges! Simply click here to grab your time.
I’d love to hear from you! Let me know which of the action steps you found most effective in the comments below.
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